Let's Talk About Best Friends

Bestie. Homie. Ride or Die. BFF. BFFL. Or simply, Best Friend.

Having a best friend is something truly special. Someone you can lean on. Someone you can trust. Someone you can tell anything to. Someone who understands you and share some of your interests. Someone who is there for you from breaking up with your boyfriend to covering you so you can dig out a wedgie. This is a person who is very special. Believe it or not, finding a best friend is something that is very rare. Yet, the word best friend or bestie gets thrown around a lot.

Me and my best friend Sabrina
reunited after a couple of months

So how do you know that you indeed have found your best friend? When they are the top of your friends and the one who you know that no matter what paths the both of you take in life that you will be close for life and each time you see each other, there's nothing but screams, laughs, and hugs. When you can tell them anything and with confidence, know that they won't tell your secrets. When you know that if they are ever in a sticky situation (let's say, jail - LOL), you will be there for them. These things among so many other things is what let's you know that you have a best friend.

However, why is this topic important to our community? Everybody needs a best friend, right? That is correct, but the reason why having a best friend is so important to our group in society is because as black females, we tend to not be seen in a positive light when it comes to friendships. Reality TV teaches us that all black women will eventually stab you in the back, even if you are BFFs. The phrase "Trust No B*tch" has been thrown around so much and has cause our group in society to become strained from one another. Instead of going at each others throats, fighting, and calling each other "B"s like we are some wild animals on reality TV, we should lift each other up, promote girl power, and promote sisterhood. Having a best friend is one of those ways we can say to society, "HEY! Not all black women hate each other! We, too, have a sisterhood."

So do you truly have a best friend? Tell me all about your best friend and what you love about your friendship down in the comments below.